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Unconditional Parenting by Alfie KohnMoving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason (Mar 2005) |
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From the book flap: Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" -- and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
Book  Punished by Rewards (Sep 1999  ) by Alfie KohnThe Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes Unconditional Parenting (Mar 2005 ) by Alfie KohnMoving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason Download  Rewarding and Punishing Knowledge SharingA presentation I gave at The Deming Forum "Exploring Transformation", 14th May 2003, Doncaster Person  Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & EducatorQuotation  On believers by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On destroying the love of learning in children by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On incentive-driven individuals by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On punishment and reward by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On quality and working together by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On rewarding innovation by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On test scores by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On the convenience of stamping students by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator On trying to do well and trying to beat others by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & EducatorWeblog Entry  Rewarding and recognizing knowledge sharingGurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 15 September 2002 Alfie Kohn on human behavior, education, and societyGurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 15 September 2002 Should we bribe kids to behave well?Gurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 14 March 2004 Thoughts on SchoolingGurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 26 May 2004 Death to the Syllabus!Gurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 14 December 2007
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