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Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

Moving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason (Mar 2005)

 





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Alfie Kohn

ISBN-10

0743487478

First Published

March 2005

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Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn From the book flap:

Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" -- and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.

One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.

More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.



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  Rewarding and recognizing knowledge sharing
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 15 September 2002

  Alfie Kohn on human behavior, education, and society
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 15 September 2002

  Should we bribe kids to behave well?
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 14 March 2004

  Thoughts on Schooling
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 26 May 2004

  Death to the Syllabus!
Gurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 14 December 2007

  Stephen Billing on Joint Inquiry
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 24 August 2009

  Are traditional rewards as effective as we think?
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 23 September 2009

  On Incentivizing Knowledge Management
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 14 December 2009

  Alfie Kohn, children, rewards, motivation and KM
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 20 January 2010

  A colossal Knowledge Management failure!
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 8 March 2010

  Don't praise the child!
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 20 April 2012

  Death by degrees, certification and accreditation
Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 14 August 2012

Book
  Punished by Rewards (Sep 1999) by Alfie Kohn
The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes

  Unconditional Parenting (Mar 2005) by Alfie Kohn
Moving from Rewards and Punishment to Love and Reason

Category
  Measures, Targets and Rewards [40 items]
Beware targets and rewards!

  Motivation [30 items]
Motivation is the most important force in life

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  Rewarding and Punishing Knowledge Sharing
A presentation I gave at The Deming Forum "Exploring Transformation", 14th May 2003, Doncaster

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  Video Playlist: Alfie Kohn
Video Playlist: Alfie Kohn

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  Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

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  Extrinsic tangible rewards undermine intrinsic motivation

  On believers by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On destroying the love of learning in children by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On incentive-driven individuals by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On punishment and reward by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On quality and working together by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On rewarding innovation by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On test scores by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On the convenience of stamping students by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

  On trying to do well and trying to beat others by Alfie Kohn Author, Speaker & Educator

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