Virginia Satir

(1916 - 1988)



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Virginia Satir by Steve Andreas Virginia Satir was one of the most influential modern psychotherapists and a founder of family therapy. She felt that many of us are afraid to communicate to others our true feelings. She believed and taught that we have internalized "rules" for social behavior that limits our communication.

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Gurteen Knowledge-Log, David Gurteen, 12 April 2003

  Virginia Satir (1991) by Steve Andreas 
The Patterns of Her Magic

  Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)

  On being me by Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)

  On being seen, heard, understood and touched by Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)

  On life by Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)

  On shoulds and oughts by Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)

  On weaving dreams by Virginia Satir (1916 - 1988)

Quotations from Virginia Satir:

 I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it -- I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know -- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.

Virginia Satir, (1916 - 1988)

 I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, heard by them, to be understood and touched by them. The greatest gift I can give is to see, hear, understand and to touch another person. When this is done I feel contact has been made.

Virginia Satir, (1916 - 1988)

 Life is not the way it's supposed to be. It's the way you cope with it is what makes the difference.

Virginia Satir, (1916 - 1988)

 I would like all of us to live as fully as we can. The only time I really feel awful is when people have not lived a life that expressed themselves. They lived with all their "shoulds" and "oughts" and their blaming and placating and all the rest of it, and I think, "How sad.

Virginia Satir, (1916 - 1988)

 I once was with somebody I liked very much -- an older person, when I was considerably younger than I am now. That person said, "Spend at least fifteen minutes a day weaving dreams. And if you weave a hundred, at least two of them will have a life." So continue with a dream and don't worry whether it can happen or not; weave it first. Many people have killed their dreams by figuring out whether they could do them or not before they dream them. So, if you're a first-rate dreamer, dream it out -- several of them--and then see what realities can come to make them happen, instead of saying, "Oh, my God. With this reality, what can I dream?

Virginia Satir, (1916 - 1988)

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