Blog Post

Non-violent communication: Ed you have a big mouth!

Posted to Gurteen Knowledge-Log by David Gurteen on 22 February 2017



Non-violent communication: Ed you have a big mouth!
WeblogGurteen Knowledge Log
Knowledge LetterAppears in the Gurteen Knowledge Letter issue: 200
Posted DateWednesday 22 February 2017 12:19 GMT
Posted ByDavid Gurteen

My daughter Sally posted a short item on her blog recently about the verb "to be" and violent communication.

Can we (or should we) ever say that 'something is', if it is not a permanent state of being? In Spanish, for the verb 'to be' we say 'ser' and 'estar'; essence and condition; identity and being; one is often more permanent than the other.

The verb 'to be' in the English language, however, has just one core manifestation.

Does this have the capacity to be most violent in communication?

Sally's use of the term "violent communication" reminded me of the work of Marshall Rosenberg and I Googled to find a YouTube video of him explaining what he meant by the term.

I quickly found this little story - Ed you have a big mouth! which sums it up quite humorously.

It is interesting that it is so difficult to explain why someone annoys you without being critical or judgmental :-)

The way we habitually communicate is violent in nature as Marshall explains more fully here (Sadly he died in 2015.)

If you are interested in Knowledge Management, the Knowledge Café or the role of conversation in organizational life then you my be interested in this online book I am writing on Conversational Leadership
David Gurteen

Follow me on Twitter

How to contact me

My Blog

Gurteen Knowledge Community
The Gurteen Knowledge Community
The Gurteen Knowledge Community is a global learning community of over 21,000 people in 160 countries across the world.

The community is for people who are committed to making a difference: people who wish to share and learn from each other and who strive to see the world differently, think differently and act differently.

Membership of the Gurteen Knowledge Community is free.
Knowledge Community


request help
visitor book
Saturday 18 May 2024
11:15 AM GDT